Episode 4 - When Oneness Means More – Physical Intimacy (non-sexual Closeness)

Physical intimacy isn’t about sex. It’s about presence. Warmth. Tenderness. The small things that say “I’m with you, I see you, I care.”

Growing up, I didn’t receive much physical affection. I wasn’t hugged often, unless it was a public event like prize-giving day. I knew I was loved, but love wasn’t expressed physically. And for a long time, I carried that into my life. I wasn’t raised with hugs—but 𝗍𝗁𝖺𝗍 𝗂𝗌𝗇’𝗍 𝖺𝗇 𝖾𝗑𝖼𝗎𝗌𝖾.

Just like not growing up with a father doesn’t mean you can’t become one.
Just like not witnessing love in your home doesn’t mean you can’t give it.

𝙒𝙚 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣. 𝙒𝙚 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬. 𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚.

A few days ago, my wife wrote a status appreciating something I’ve always done for her:

“There are a lot of things that hubby does that scream ‘I love you’ but you see whenever we attend late night events or knock off late using 2 cars this man makes sure to follow me on our drive home, making sure gore I am okay and it’s the quick light flashes that just say ‘I am right here with you’ arggggghh man I love it here”

That’s it right there. It’s not big, but it’s intentional. It’s not once—it’s consistent.
And it’s not natural for me—it’s 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥.

Thanks to my wife, I learned how to express love physically—because I discovered what she needed. And I became who she needed me to become.

That’s not manipulation—that’s 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲.

“Be kind and tenderhearted to one another…” — Ephesians 4:32
“Two are better than one... if either falls, one can help the other up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10
“God is love.” — 1 John 4:8
So don’t say “I wasn’t raised like that.”

𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴—𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲.

God is the greatest Father of all. He teaches us how to love if we’re willing to learn.

𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐜𝐲:

• Hug without waiting for a reason

• Sit close during conversation or prayer

• Hold hands—even during silence

• Offer small, intentional touches of comfort
  

Learn what affection means to your spouse—and give it freely

Next: 5/8 – 𝐒𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐜𝐲 (𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞)