Episode 7 - When Oneness Means More: Financial Intimacy

True financial intimacy transforms money from a source of conflict into a tool for unity. It's less about perfect spreadsheets and more about shared vision, where every dollar reflects mutual values and God-centered priorities. This requires radical honesty - admitting spending tendencies, resisting the temptation to weaponize resources, and celebrating financial wins together.

โ€œItโ€™s not just about money. Itโ€™s about unity, honesty, and shared vision.โ€

Let me be honest. Iโ€™m not a financial expert. And I wonโ€™t say weโ€™ve done it perfectly. Weโ€™re still learning. Still growing. Still making mistakesโ€”and learning from them. Both of us are spontaneous people, so sometimes it gets tricky. Sometimes thereโ€™s no one to say, โ€œWait, do we really need this right now?โ€ But weโ€™ve also had moments of maturityโ€”where weโ€™ve sat down to plan big things.

Buying a house. Expanding the business. Even getting our second carโ€”though spontaneousโ€”was somewhere in the vague plan for the year. We just got excited and said, โ€œLetโ€™s go check it outโ€โ€ฆ and well, you know how that story ends.

โ€œFor where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.โ€  Matthew 6:21
โ€œTwo are better than oneโ€ฆ for if they fall, one will lift up his companion.โ€ Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

But hereโ€™s the core of it: we donโ€™t use money as a weapon. Itโ€™s not a tool to control, manipulate, or deprive. Itโ€™s a resource for growth, for love, for building, for blessing each other. We donโ€™t always get it right. And to be honest, I think we could use expert guidance in this area. But what matters most is that weโ€™re committed to being open, to improving, and to keeping God at the center of it all.

Because financial intimacy isnโ€™t just about budgeting spreadsheets or savings accounts. Itโ€™s about trust. Itโ€™s about sharing resources with love, not withholding them to gain control.

๐๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐“๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ˆ๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐š๐œ๐ฒ:

  • Be honest about your spending habits

  • Donโ€™t use money to punish or manipulate

  • Plan together for the big things

  • Let giving (not just tithing) be part of your relationship

  • Admit when you need helpโ€”and seek wisdom

Next up: 8/8 โ€“ ๐’๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ˆ๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐š๐œ๐ฒ

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