Episode 8 - When Oneness Means More: Social Intimacy

We don’t do marriage in isolation. As much as love is between two people—it’s also tested, witnessed, and sometimes shaped by community.

Social intimacy is about how we relate as a couple in public and private—from church gatherings to family dinners, to social media presence, to how we defend each other when others speak. And truth is… people are different. Your siblings may not be like her in-laws. Church folks might not think like your colleagues. But how you show up for each other through all that matters deeply. For us, it’s something we’ve grown into intentionally. I’m public, she’s private—but never secretive. I post, she doesn’t—but that’s okay. It works for us. Because we agreed: We will not publicly criticize each other. We will not join others in dishonoring one another. If there’s something we need to fix—we fix it in private, not in the crowd. Over time, we’ve developed a shared rhythm.

There are moments she doesn’t even have to say anything—I just know it’s time to leave or shift the mood. We just get each other. That’s intimacy. But that kind of connection didn’t happen by accident. Some things we got from our premarital counselor. Some things came through experience. Others—through trial, error, and sitting down to say, “Next time, let’s do it better.”

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

– Ephesians 4:2

“Let all that you do be done with love.” – 1 Corinthians 16:14

𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐜𝐲:

• Respect your partner in public—even when annoyed

• Don’t air your marital grievances outside

• Read their cues in social settings

• Learn their boundaries—especially socially

• Present a united front when others are watching

We’re not claiming to have perfected it—far from it.
But we are aware.
We are intentional.

And that awareness alone has helped us thrive.

Ignore this kind of intimacy and you’ll feel it.
Nurture it—and you’ll grow in quiet, unshakable strength.